//Father's Day Tribute-Superheroes don't wear capes//

//Superheroes don't wear capes//

Jason Wong's Workshop Just for DADS

His humility can be felt 

Sharing tips to all fathers 

Moments of memories for fathers and children 


Breakfast with dads

Many dads in the house

Never too late to share private moments with your child

-over 80 fathers in the house turned up for our Father's Day Event-
It was yet another memorable time for our dads in the house celebrating a day worth remembering- Father's Day.

"Love-based parenting vs expectations-based parenting"

Flashes of memories of my dad came to my mind, being the sole bread-winner of the house working hard and making ends meet. The traditional man with few words but shows love through actions of working hard makes me realised and only truly appreciate his way of love only when I reached my collage years (Pretty late realisation-please do not be like me) and God opened up my eyes to see that tender and soft side of him which is always there covered by the many burdens he had to carry due to the pressure of placing food on the table as well as providing good education for us. I am deeply grateful and convinced with all my heart I will not be who I am today without the labours of my dad and mum and I honor and love them with all my heart.

Dads shoulders responsibilities many a times we can't comprehend, the unseen pressures one may placed upon oneself to meet their own personal ideals or expectations. Our family upbringing does affect the way we parent our children to a certain extend, thus it is so important to have a proper lens and mindset to bring up our children especially during their early years, and to unlearn all the things we used to think is right. Like untying the knots we tied along life's journey.

Coming back to our Father's Day celebration in school, we had such a privilege of having Jason Wong, the founder of dads' for life as well as the initiator of Yellow Ribbon Project.

We started the day with "Breakfast with Dads", the amazing creative teachers who have individual ideas in various classes providing different food items for dads to create with their child and enjoy private moments of chats and eating their creation together. The presenting of hand-made gifts are precious, as we facilitate the moments of collecting memories for Fathers and children, the hard work behind each unsung heroes seem to be so much worthwhile watching the smiles and hugs behind the strong figure.

So creativity unleash with dads and child to create! 

Fathers got their private moments with Jason Wong, as he kick start the workshop on fathering tips. I am so blessed hearing him talk, never dull but so personable, practical as well as a sense of love and grace seems to flood over the entire room as he shares his experiences and inspire. His sharing made me teared at the corner of my eye but got to get my emotions together and wiped it off fast in order to end off the workshop with my words of appreciation to him as well honoring all fathers present.

Here is the summary of what was shared: 
10 Fathering Tips: 
1. Do not outsource parenting.
2. Practice love-based parenting, not expectations-based parenting.
3. Live the values you want to teach.
4. Decide today how you want your children to remember you.
5. Create memories in fun and creative ways.
6. Provide a happy and safe home for your children.
7. Be aware of what research says.
8. Listen to the voices of your children.
9. No point being a hero outside and a zero at home.
10. Be there for your children.

Read more about his recent sharing and be encouraged: 
http://saltandlight.sg/relationships/no-point-being-a-hero-outside-and-a-zero-at-home-says-fatherhood-champion-jason-wong/

Father's Day Celebration event is a success, bonding time with children, sharing private moments and collecting memories, inspiring fathers by the best Father figure: Jason Wong (Hopefully can change our minds to always choose love-based parenting) and creating that opportunity for Fathers' Support Group to be in our pipeline within our school. =)
Fathering is never easy, and we honor all fathers.
*This event is not possible without our unsung heroines: Honouring teachers who facilitated the session of breakfast*

To all fathers: 
Do not give up love-based fathering. You are the best dad for your child. No one can replace your role. Continue on the best you know how and look up :) You are so important!
Enjoy your moments as a dad and don't be too hard on yourself. Happy Fathers' Day Superheroes! <3

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