//One on one attention//

//Mum-Son Date//

One on one attention? 
Have you ever thought that within your family that group dynamic is very different from a one-on-one dynamic? While family time is so precious amidst our busy work-family balance, one to one attention given brings on that boost of extra flavor much needed for the soul. I've only come to realize recently that one on one attention is so important. Some children only come alive when you get them alone and give them space to talk.
Spending time with our children individually is just so important, am sure it will reap benefits we know not of in the long run!

What it does? 
Individual time strengthens bonds between one another. Group dynamics are very different from one to one dynamics. Guess spending time alone fills up love tanks way faster than we expects as I've experienced first hand with my son as he verbalized his wish to just spend time alone with me, so it's just us and there's no need to fight for attention. He said he feels so happy being able to do so after so long and just that look of joy on his handsome face makes my day! Sozo verbalized his thoughts of wanting to spend time alone with mummy as most of the time Hannah is with me, and it really never crosses my mind it's an issue till Sozo overwhelms with emotions shared how he felt and I am so thankful he is able to share his thoughts so we can make dates happen not just for me and him but also for our girl and daddy :)  Parents with siblings needs to realize the need to spend one on one time, no matter how old our child is, this gesture of connection is just so important. Guess it's never too late for us to focus on this! And never too late for you as well no matter how old your kids are! :)
Now we call it a special dad-daughter date, special mum-son date, special mum-daughter date and special dad-son date! Adding on to the list of much needed mum-dad date and family time!
//Mum-Daughter Time//

Was reflecting: 
If we spend a Saturday or half day on a weekday as you arrange time off work with one child once every month (or at whatever frequency works) will be a great time to do whatever is on their heart. Does your son love all things sporty? Bringing him out to run and do stuff to work his muscles will make his day. This will particularly be special for him because you two being alone means no one else (another sibling trying to complain about something) is there to say his idea is tiring, wanting to do something else or simply not fun.
Every child is different and this will be a time to embrace their individual differences and really helps each one feels so special in doing things just for them alone, creates opportunity for heart to heart talks and it's mummy and daddy special time with me other than the usual family time :) 

Thoughts for myself: 
Remember, trying to treat everyone equally or the same might not always work. In fact, it will communicate a wrong message. Everyone is – in fact – not equal nor the same because we are so different in many ways. 
Some are taller, some are shorter, some are funnier, some are smarter, some are more ambitious, and some are more artistic. We love them individually and for who they are as a person. Spending time alone with them on a consistent basis will help them understand differences in many ways as a person and to meet each other love language the way they appreciate plus teaching them the same as well. Guess we as parents are always learning, learning how to be a better person, better lover, better mum or dad.
Same-same but different in many ways


Encouragement for all: 
Do not feel discouraged if in any occasions where words thrown by your kids hit you like a dagger in your heart when you tries your best in parenting. Feeling like a failure as a parent in occasions, I've been there, experienced it and went through that, drawing many precious lessons along the way. Our sun rises up everyday, so there's always sunshine and a new hope for each new day!

Acknowledge the emotions of your child and do not let it get personal to you as an adult! Ride above the situation and know that words in anger cannot be held on so tightly in your heart thus let it go of that and speak life to address the pain disguise as anger thereafter. Your child might be handling emotions bigger than their mind can take, so love regardless and let's try one to one attention as it might just work for the better not just for them but also for you!


Parenting is not easy, enjoy the little moments in life and drink a little wine when the going gets tough! The sun rises everyday and God's favor is always flooding over you ! :) Take heart and never give up! :)

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